Marrying a beautiful foreign woman is probably the best thing you could ever do for yourself. That is no joke. There is a huge body of scientific evidence that getting married is the best thing a man can do for his health, emotional wellness, and even his financial status.
But of course, it is not that simple.
If you’re like most men living in Western Europe, North America, and Australia you’ve probably grown very tired of the almost never-ending feminist criticism of everything male.
It is annoying, and worse is that this attitude makes it incredibly difficult for men and women to see their need for one another and the true potential of deep loving relationship.
Being a man in the United States, Canada, or Australia is a lot more complicated today than it was fifty or a hundred years ago. And for the poor neutered men from Norway, Germany, or most of the rest of Europe it is even worse. Gender roles are complicated. Women like to claim they can do anything, but exactly what they expect.
So, like hundreds of thousands of other men you have decided to investigate the idea of looking overseas for women for marriage. The opportunities are available to you overseas in terms of finding a new girlfriend, and maybe even a woman you’d consider marrying are amazing.
A lot of possibilities that you might think are out of your reach might still be possible. Have you ever wanted to marry a bikini model, fitness trainer, or a sexy woman doctor?
Overseas, those aspirations are not silly. Dating the most beautiful, talented, intelligent woman you have ever met is not out of the question. You can set your sites on almost any sort of woman you have ever dreamed about, and, “NO!” it does not cost a fortune.
Yes, you might have to raise your game. But you should always be trying to raise your game regardless of where you are in life. You should try every day to be a better husband, father, son, and human being.
If going after a cool foreign woman makes you take stock of your life and live to your full potential then this little article was more than worth it.
Dating A Younger Woman
Being able to date younger women is one of the main reasons that men decide to pursue foreign women and there is nothing wrong with deciding to pursue a younger woman. It is natural and has probably gone on forever, because men have always – generally – been tasked as the providers and protectors in a family.
Even after all of the feminist bunk in the last fifty years, 19% of American men are at least six years older than their wives. The same Census Bureau report shows that 7.4% of American men are at least ten years older than their wives.
Most men have no idea. more amazing is that, as good as it is for men to marry anyone, marriage is even more amazing for men when they marry younger women. Men who marry younger women tend to be happier, live longer, and earn more money. Another article suggests that men should marry the most intelligent young woman they can.
And it is much easier to court a young woman overseas. American and European women often are obsessed with starting their careers as quickly as possible. In Latin America, Asia, and Eastern Europe that concept has never taken hold.
And if you are a man who spent the first twenty or thirty years of your professional life building your career you will even be more in demand. Most foreign women really love a mature established man.
The modern lifestyle in the West has been tough on men too and often we work like mad for thirty years and wake up at fifty-two with a great career, a fat 401k, and a sudden realization that there has to be more to life. If that sounds like you then foreign women can be a real life saver.
These women want to meet older, established men who will treat them well. Many of them grow up in patriarchal societies where women are true second class citizens and they like kind, generous men from the United States and Europe.
This means you don’t have to sell yourself to international women. You simply decided what sort of a woman you want to marry.
The Best Women For Marriage
Who are the very best women for marriage, or, to put it another way, where can you find the best pool of potential brides? Well, that largely depends on your personal biases.
So, how exactly do you go about doing this? The first thing you need to decide is the country of origin you prefer, for example would you prefer to marry a white Eastern European girl, or would your personal preferences align more with a caramel-skinned South American beauty?
Think about what really turns you on. You get the idea, who is your fantasy girl?
Do you still stand in awe of the first time you ever saw Pamela Anderson running down the beach on Baywatch? Or would you do almost anything to spend a few hours with Penelope Cruz? Or maybe Ziyi Zhang from Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon still makes you roar like the biggest engine on the Union Pacific.
Because if you widen the search for your perfect woman to the entire planet you vastly increase the chance of finding exactly the woman that turns you up and turns you on. That is the real wonder of international dating.
So, there’s no shame in either answer, so be honest with yourself here because you have absolutely nothing to lose. Just know that regardless of what country you choose there will be several dozen potential girlfriends for you there, as opposed to the current situation back home, which usually involves scraping the bottom of the dating barrel.
Those choices all depend on your on internal desires and biases. All of us have slightly different tastes about what is really sexy and we also know that a successful relationship requires more than sexiness.
If you are looking for a mate, not a fling, you need to consider education, temperament, interests, and lifetime goals. Be honest about your situation.
Stop and really consider your finances. You do not have to be rich, but your finances need to be in order. Do not go and marry a beautiful woman from the far side of the world if you do not have a decent
Do you want to have kids?
Most foreign women want to have kids, but you still need to talk to the girls you date about this issue. On the other side if you are 59 and absolutely do not want to have kids you need to tell them that too.
A lot of foreign ladies will say they don’t want kids in the early stages of a romance with an older man who is not interested in children, but if no kids is a real deal breaker you should ask about this over and over and over. Be crystal clear.
However, if you believe you do not want to have kids you should consider the recent research that shows that older fathers tend to be better fathers. And it is one of the best things that you can do for your happiness.
But all of this is sort of getting the cart ahead of the horse. The first question is really, “What is the best country to meet women for marriage?”
Best Country To Meet Women For Marriage
What is the best country to meet foreign women for marriage? Well, some of it is subjective. But take a few minutes to consider logistics.
Latin America is an easy trip for most Americans in the Sun Belt states. From Florida, Texas, or Southern California it is only about a three flight to Costa Rica or Panama.
If you are going to Colombia or Venezuela it is still only about four hours, but after that it gets tough. From Houston to Buenos Aires is ten hours and a lot more from Chicago or New York.
Whether you live in North America, Western Europe, or Australia these numbers are hard to change. For American men Latin America is super convenient. Many European men can easily take the train to Ukraine and it is a shorter flight from Perth to Cebu in the Philippines than from Perth to Sydney.
Now, you might be thinking, “But I can put up with a few extra hours on an airplane to meet the woman I really want to meet!” Fair enough, but remember you are probably going to have to make at least two or three trips during the courting process.
If you marry a beautiful girl who lives twenty hours in the air from the nearest major airport to where you live you are probably going to have to visit her family at least every couple of years. Over time that adds up to a lot of extra time in an airplane and a lot of extra money.
Then take your language skills or lack thereof into consideration. If you happen to be a polymath perhaps you already speak Spanish, Chinese, and Russian. (If so I am jealous.) But for most guys the biggest hassle is the language gap.
That is one of the main reasons that the Philippines is such a popular destination, particularly for Americans, Australians, and British men. Nearly every woman in the Philippines speaks English or something that resembles English, so it saves a ton of time.
Regardless, unless you happen to be fluent, you should start studying the language of whatever country you are planning to visit. Yes, Google Translate and similar services makes all of this easier today, but you still should try to learn some of the language.
It will make it a lot easier to get around, but even more important, it shows the women you are interested in that you are willing to make real effort for her.
If you are serious, you should never let a language barrier get in the way of romance and the simplest way to do that is to simply invest the time you need to in learning at least conversational Russian, Spanish, Portuguese, or whatever language is most commonly spoken in that part of the world.
There’s literally no excuse for not learning a foreign language these days, especially with apps like Duolingo, where you can learn a foreign language in as little as 10 minutes per day.
If you’re not willing to invest 10 minutes per day in finding the woman of your dreams, then don’t be surprised when that doesn’t happen.
Plan Your Fact Finding Visit
Once you choose which country your future wife currently resides in, you then need to figure out how long your visit there will be. If you think the amount of time you spend in a country shouldn’t matter then you’ve obviously never visited someplace as vast as Ukraine, or the more sparsely populated countries of South America.
One of the best ways to do this is to take a romance tour. These tours are one of the best ways to meet a lot of foreign women in a short amount of time. The company that provides the service usually provides your food, lodging, and travel in country.
Normally, you pay for your own flight and they hold parties where often hundreds of stunning ladies show up. It can really be a lot of fun and it is also usually not terribly expensive.
But if you really want to get to know the lay of the land and what the women of a given country are really like, then you need to spend at least two weeks in your country of choice. However, these trips are a lot more fun if you are learning the lay of the land from a beautiful native girl.
Become A Culture Ninja
A really important goal to set yourself is to fully understand and absorb any cultural differences that might exist between where you come from and the country you’re visiting.
People are people no matter where you are in the world, but the very last thing you want is to put your foot in your mouth because you didn’t understand that a Russian girl expects a kiss on the cheek on a first date, and not a game of tonsil hockey. Or that the vast majority of Latinas will bring a friend or friends with them on their first date.
This isn’t because they’re afraid you’re some kind of sexual predator, but is more about their friends approving of you as a potential boyfriend.
Don’t Be A Jerk
Something else you need to be acutely aware of is the fact that foreign women won’t simply fall into your arms because you’re from North America or Western Europe. You might see yourself as a knight in shining armor, riding in to rescue them from a life of oppression and hard labor in the fields, but that’s not how things work in real life.
Any beautiful, intelligent foreign woman isn’t looking to be rescued – she’s simply looking for a man to fall in love with, and yes, one from a more developed country with better financial opportunities. But that doesn’t mean you get to treat her like some kind of indentured servant.
No matter what part of the world you’re in, women possess certain standards they’ll adhere to, both cultural and personal.
One really important piece of advice to share with you is that you never, ever try to use pickup artist techniques on foreign women. While this might have been popular 10 years ago, women all over the world are now completely familiar with what “negging” is and that you’re simply trying to manipulate them to get them to do what you want.
After all, do you really want to win a woman over by psychologically manipulating her, or you would you prefer to sack up, be a man, and sweep her off her feet in a way that doesn’t make you feel like taking a hot shower afterwards?
Keep It Simple
You’ll find that keeping things simple works best when trying to woo a girl from another country, and by this we mean doing the obvious stuff like dressing well, behaving like a gentleman, not trying to get her into bed on the first date, and presenting her with little gifts when that is appropriate.
Basically, winning over a foreign girl is about doing the right things at the right times, and being consistent in your approach.
Obviously you need to keep your head on a swivel to avoid gold diggers and women who are only interested in using you to get a visa, but that’s usually just a case of understanding that if she looks too good to be true, and sounds too good to be true, then she probably is too good to be true.
Preparation really is the key to enjoying a greater level of success in your overseas dating efforts than the average guy – because the average guy will arrive in a foreign country with a level of expectancy that not only makes them look desperate, but also entirely unattractive to the opposite sex.