If you’re like most men living in Western Europe, North America, and Australia you’ve probably grown very tired of the almost never-ending amount of crap you have to put up with from women in your own country. It feels like that no matter how much you give, it’s just never enough, right?
You’re not alone in feeling that way, guys.
Like tens of thousands of other men, you’ve set your sights on exploring what opportunities are available to you overseas in terms of finding a new girlfriend, and maybe even a woman you’d consider marrying at some stage in the future.
Figure Out What She Looks Like First
So, how exactly do you go about doing this? The first thing you need to decide is the country of origin you prefer, for example would you prefer to marry a white Eastern European girl, or would your personal preferences align more with a caramel-skinned South American beauty?
There’s no shame in either answer, so be honest with yourself here because you have absolutely nothing to lose. Just know that regardless of what country you choose there will be several dozen potential girlfriends for you there, as opposed to the current situation back home, which usually involves scraping the bottom of the dating barrel.
Plan Your Fact Finding Visit
Once you choose which country your future wife currently resides in, you then need to figure out how long your visit there will be. If you think the amount of time you spend in a country shouldn’t matter then you’ve obviously never visited someplace as vast as Ukraine, or the more sparsely populated countries of South America.
Yes, you will always have the option of using a “Romance Tour” to do a quick scouting trip of any country – that’s not necessarily a bad idea – but if you really want to get to know the lay of the land and what the women of a given country are really like, then you need to spend at least two weeks in your country of choice.
Become A Culture Ninja
A really important goal to set yourself is to fully understand and absorb any cultural differences that might exist between where you come from and the country you’re visiting.
People are people no matter where you are in the world, but the very last thing you want is to put your foot in your mouth because you didn’t understand that a Russian girl expects a kiss on the cheek on a first date, and not a game of tonsil hockey. Or that the vast majority of Latinas will bring a friend or friends with them on their first date.
This isn’t because they’re afraid you’re some kind of sexual predator, but is more about their friends approving of you as a potential boyfriend.
You should never let a language barrier get in the way of romance and the simplest way to do that is to simply invest the time you need to in learning at least conversational Russian, Spanish, Portuguese, or whatever language is most commonly spoken in that part of the world.
There’s literally no excuse for not learning a foreign language these days, especially with apps like Duolingo, where you can learn a foreign language in as little as 10 minutes per day. If you’re not willing to invest 10 minutes per day in finding the woman of your dreams, then don’t be surprised when that doesn’t happen.
Don’t Be A Jerk
Something else you need to be acutely aware of is the fact that foreign women won’t simply fall into your arms because you’re from North America or Western Europe. You might see yourself as a knight in shining armor, riding in to rescue them from a life of oppression and hard labor in the fields, but that’s not how things work in real life.
Any beautiful, intelligent foreign woman isn’t looking to be rescued – she’s simply looking for a man to fall in love with, and yes, one from a more developed country with better financial opportunities. But that doesn’t mean you get to treat her like some kind of indentured servant.
No matter what part of the world you’re in, women possess certain standards they’ll adhere to, both cultural and personal.
One really important piece of advice to share with you is that you never, ever try to use pickup artist techniques on foreign women. While this might have been popular 10 years ago, women all over the world are now completely familiar with what “negging” is and that you’re simply trying to manipulate them to get them to do what you want.
After all, do you really want to win a woman over by psychologically manipulating her, or you would you prefer to sack up, be a man, and sweep her off her feet in a way that doesn’t make you feel like taking a hot shower afterwards?
Keep It Simple
You’ll find that keeping things simple works best when trying to woo a girl from another country, and by this we mean doing the obvious stuff like dressing well, behaving like a gentleman, not trying to get her into bed on the first date, and presenting her with little gifts when that is appropriate.
Basically, winning over a foreign girl is about doing the right things at the right times, and being consistent in your approach.
Obviously you need to keep your head on a swivel to avoid gold diggers and women who are only interested in using you to get a visa, but that’s usually just a case of understanding that if she looks too good to be true, and sounds too good to be true, then she probably is too good to be true.
Preparation really is the key to enjoying a greater level of success in your overseas dating efforts than the average guy – because the average guy will arrive in a foreign country with a level of expectancy that not only makes them look desperate, but also entirely unattractive to the opposite sex.